Add together this to the list of things that will baffle you almost cheaters: A surprising bulk of them don't seem very concerned nearly getting caught, co-ordinate to a contempo poll from extramarital thing site Victoria Milan.

The site surveyed 11,050 of its users well-nigh their cheating habits, and the results are pretty alarming. Apparently, on acme of existence sneaky and deceitful, many cheaters are also—incredibly brazen? Lx-iv percent of them sext the person they're cheating with while their partner is in the room and only 12 pct said they were "very agape" of getting defenseless. The rest were either only "somewhat afraid" (75 percent) or "not afraid at all" (13 percent).

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With blasé attitudes like that, it raises the question: Practice cheaters want to become caught? Well, first things first: You might balk at the 64 percent of people sexting right under their partners' noses, but Diana Kirschner, Ph.D., love good and CEO of Love in xc Days, says that it'south not that bold of a motility, given how so many of us are constantly connected to our devices anyway. "These days, people are in such a state of divided attention that in that location's a natural distance even though they are in physical proximity," she says. "Information technology makes for a feeling of safeness and distance."

That said, Kirschner believes that a good majority of cheaters do want to become caught, at least subconsciously—simply not for the reasons yous might think. It seems straightforward plenty: Cheaters who are blah about getting defenseless must be blah about their relationships, right? Merely Kirschner suggests another theory that may surprise you: The cheater may promise that getting caught would really rejuvenate the human relationship. And every bit crazy as it sounds, she actually sees this play out quite often.

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"After a relationship is hanging in the bounds like that, there can be new levels of appreciation and sexual contact," says Kirschner. Obviously, this isn't how all adulterous scenarios play out, and information technology'south non exactly a great relationship model, just Kirschner says some couples do actually come together after an indiscretion. Substantially, she says it sometimes comes down to habituation: Yous're always around, so your partner gets used to you and takes you for granted, just to realize your value when there's the threat of losing yous—a response that would kick in after the cheating was exposed. Cue him rushing to make information technology up to yous—or y'all rushing to pique his interest over again. And finally, "for some people, it is a way to leave of a wedlock that they don't want to be in," says Kirschner. "They simply don't have the guts to exit. Then they subconsciously want to be found out in order to exist 'released.'"

Notwithstanding, Kirschner also says that information technology's of import to retrieve who's taking these polls—not just cheaters, but cheaters who actively and systematically seek out affairs online. This breed of cheater, she says, is unlike from the cheater who may stumble into diplomacy without planning. And those people might non be as fidgety to get outed as Victoria Milan's thrill-seeking users.

At the end of the day, a lot of what might drive cheaters to flirt with the danger of exposing their affairs is likely subconscious, says Kirschner, and maybe non so worth overanalyzing. Yes, it might be alarming—and okay, depressing and anger-inducing—that only 12 percent of cheaters are super afraid of getting caught cheating by their partners, simply on the other hand, that leaves 88 per centum of cheaters helping their partners kick them to the curb faster.

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